I am a bit concerned. I read Dr. Colemans book in May. I found the book very valuable throughout. However, his chapter on Gender was the only chapter in which he did not present a view of both sides in a very neutral way. I thought he was completely biased in favor of gender ideology. Perhaps since the book was published, he has changed …
I am a bit concerned. I read Dr. Colemans book in May. I found the book very valuable throughout. However, his chapter on Gender was the only chapter in which he did not present a view of both sides in a very neutral way. I thought he was completely biased in favor of gender ideology. Perhaps since the book was published, he has changed and sees a "wider view" and one that can see that in some cases great harm is occurring to the child or parent or both.
In this interview, he seemed more able to discuss a compassionate view, but I am suspect since his chapter is so one-sided. Stella and Sasha, have you read that chapter? Is it just me?
I also read his book in the last 1.5 yrs and I have subscribed to his emails. I don't think he has changed his mind much about gender based on those emails. I don't know how he would square being demanded to use a name before a YA would talk to the parent.
I’m adding this if anyone reads - yesterday he sent out an email to his subscribers again telling us that parents don’t understand the new shift in all the genders and we need to get on board. He quotes Diane Ehrensaft. There must be someone better out there. But, we are dealing with estrangement because our kids are in a cult.
Coleman doesn’t appear to have changed his mind, otherwise he would have updated his email. Coleman has kernels of nuggets that are helpful for ally kids that still have some attachment to their parents. I found it helpful with a situation with the ally son, but he estranged without any confrontation. He went silently in the night.
But I am re-reading (skimming) Hassan’s book on cults that I first read 3 yrs ago when my family was pulled into this. He mentioned that people in cults have two personalities - the cult one (don’t recognize the kid) and their authentic one. It hit me recalling my son the years from senior in HS to when we last saw him in 2021, that it fits his behavior. There were periods where my husband and I would comment to each other that there is hope for him. (My husband calls the period from teens to 25 as the tunnel of stupidity.) He was in the cult unbeknownst to us for two years. The glimmer of hope we saw was the kid we knew. Hassan describes two personalities because it’s when you see the authentic kid, can you help them. You cannot help them when they are in the cult frame of mind; in fact, you push them further into it.
I am a bit concerned. I read Dr. Colemans book in May. I found the book very valuable throughout. However, his chapter on Gender was the only chapter in which he did not present a view of both sides in a very neutral way. I thought he was completely biased in favor of gender ideology. Perhaps since the book was published, he has changed and sees a "wider view" and one that can see that in some cases great harm is occurring to the child or parent or both.
In this interview, he seemed more able to discuss a compassionate view, but I am suspect since his chapter is so one-sided. Stella and Sasha, have you read that chapter? Is it just me?
I also read his book in the last 1.5 yrs and I have subscribed to his emails. I don't think he has changed his mind much about gender based on those emails. I don't know how he would square being demanded to use a name before a YA would talk to the parent.
I’m adding this if anyone reads - yesterday he sent out an email to his subscribers again telling us that parents don’t understand the new shift in all the genders and we need to get on board. He quotes Diane Ehrensaft. There must be someone better out there. But, we are dealing with estrangement because our kids are in a cult.
Yikes, I am not sure what to think about this.
I agree with you, however by all accounts he has developed his position since then. It is very unfortunate that he took this position in his book.
Coleman doesn’t appear to have changed his mind, otherwise he would have updated his email. Coleman has kernels of nuggets that are helpful for ally kids that still have some attachment to their parents. I found it helpful with a situation with the ally son, but he estranged without any confrontation. He went silently in the night.
But I am re-reading (skimming) Hassan’s book on cults that I first read 3 yrs ago when my family was pulled into this. He mentioned that people in cults have two personalities - the cult one (don’t recognize the kid) and their authentic one. It hit me recalling my son the years from senior in HS to when we last saw him in 2021, that it fits his behavior. There were periods where my husband and I would comment to each other that there is hope for him. (My husband calls the period from teens to 25 as the tunnel of stupidity.) He was in the cult unbeknownst to us for two years. The glimmer of hope we saw was the kid we knew. Hassan describes two personalities because it’s when you see the authentic kid, can you help them. You cannot help them when they are in the cult frame of mind; in fact, you push them further into it.
If you ever see a more developed position from him, please let me know. I haven't found it yet.
Yes I will. I really hope he is developing his position